FatherSon Ventures

Building a Relationship through Adventure

The Worst Two Sons

Written By: Scot Butwell - Aug• 11•17

A couple of days ago, I took my mom to her ear doctor appointment, and once the examination was complete, the septuagenarian doctor treated us to a story about his two nephews.

It went something like this:

His sister married and had two sons. She got a divorced and remarried. The oldest son liked jumping off the roof onto a mattress. He was into World Wrestling Entertaining (WWE) moves.

He was 12, I think, at the time.

“His mom didn’t really know what to do with him,” the doctor said.

The younger brother was often rude to his father-in-law, calling his toupee a rug, but when he got laid off from his accounting job, the toupee made him look younger and help him land a job.

“Ageism is still alive,” said the doctor.

Both brothers went to college and graduated. The older brother now travels the world as a WWF wrestler; he also does stand up comedy and voice over work on the side.

The younger brother loved to draw. What can you do with that? the father-in-law used to tell him. But he worked his way up in the entertainment industry to become an animation director for the Family Guy.

“That’s a big deal,” the doctor said, saying it again one word at a time.  “That’s a very big deal.”

“My brother-in-law used to pick at the younger step son all the time, and even now that he has become a director for Family Guy, he watches his son’s show and calls to tell me, “I don’t get it.”

“I don’t get it either half the time,” the doctor confided to me.

I have no idea why he told us this story, of an accountant dad who doesn’t get his creative son, but I’m glad he told the story. My mom is 83, and my brother and I are grown up.

I am 48, and D is nine, so, maybe, the story was meant for me. I thought of D, and how I want him to be whatever he wants to be. His passion is drawing, and he loves animation characters.

He draws characters from Angry BirdsVeggie Tales and Five Nights at Freddies, and loves talking about them, making up stories about his favorite animated characters.

“Who is your favorite Five Nights at Freddy character?” he likes to ask me. “Freddy or Nightmare Freddy.”

“I like Freddy because of his cool hat,” I say. “It reminds me of a hat I used to have.”

I think his penchant for drawing may foreshadow his vocation just like the older brother’s jumping off the roof or younger brother’s saucy attitude led to the pursuit of their unique careers.

The two take always: 1) the father-in-law never learned to embrace his sons for who there are, and 2) the sons vocations were wired into their DNA by their natural proclivities.

I tell the doctor’s story to L, hoping it will help her to understand our son, that he is a boy and sometimes boys tend to be rowdy and leave ther clothes strewn all over their bedroom floor.

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