FatherSon Ventures

Building a Relationship through Adventure

A Swimming Story

Written By: Scot Butwell - Nov• 26•16

swim-jumpI don’t remember saying it like it was a big deal or thinking this would be the moment. We were in the swimming pool at my mom’s condo and I casually said to D, swim over to me.

I was standing in the middle of the pool, and D was at the steps of the pool. We were just goofing around, enjoying some father and son time.

I wasn’t focused on him learning how to swim. Okay, so I asked him to grab the side of the pool and kick his legs, but then I forgot about trying to get him to practice swimming.

I’d watched him practice swimming every day for four weeks and, frankly, I was a tired of monitoring his progress and waiting for “the moment.”

Frim putting his face in the water and staying under water to kicking his legs straight and using his “big arms,” he had made incremental progress.

But he was still not swimming yet, struggling with synchronizing his legs and arms while tilting his head to the side to breath.

In two words, he had trust issues.

In three words, executive planning issues.

I praised his progress and told him I could sense he was on the verge of swimming, and he loved the vending machine snacks after his lesson.

He liked telling his mom he knew how to swim. However, he knew he was close to putting it all together, but was not yet swimming like his peers.

I knew it would take time like when D learned to ride a bike and one day he looping around the basketball court in a slight drizzle with a huge grin.

And then he did it.

I casually said, swim to me. 

And he swam to me.

He swam about twelve feet with his arms down  by his side and his head fully submerged under the water and his legs kicking straight.


I felt a surge of joy swell up in my chest and time slowed down a moment and I thought the sky suddenly looked more beautiful than a moment ago.

Then D leaped into the pool and when he came to the surface, he kept his arms to the side and head in the water, and he swam to the other side.

Just like it was no big deal. But I knew he knew it was a huge achievement.

  • Twitter
  • del.icio.us
  • Digg
  • Facebook
  • Technorati
  • Reddit
  • Yahoo Buzz
  • StumbleUpon

You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. Both comments and pings are currently closed.