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McDonald’s Reflection

Written By: Scot Butwell - Mar• 15•15

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Have you heard this joke? The past, the present, and the future walked into a bar. It was tense. Here’s another grammar joke:

Knock knock!

Who’s there?


To who?

To whom?

When I was in high school, I remember my English teacher once looked at me and said, “name two pronouns.” To which I replied, “Who? Me?” And the girl sitting next to me laughed at me response.

This is what I imagine social situations feel like for a child on the autism spectrum. It’s confusing and tense as if the past, present and future you were trying to carry on a conversation in a bar.

Grammar was like fine wine up to my early twenties. Verbs. Nouns. Adjectives. Adverbs. Pronouns. Prepositions. Conjunctions. Interjections. Pluperfect tense.

I didn’t come close to understanding all the different parts of speech until they became relevant to me as a writer and, as an English teacher, I still don’t know what the Pluperfect tense means.

So, it may take time, as it did with me to grasp grammar, for D to develop his social competence and to be feel comfortable in the myriad nuances of a social conversation, to whack words back and forth like a ping pong ball.

Lately, I have been imagining a conversation is like “improv” acting. One person says a thing, another person says a thing; each person says a new thing, the other person responds, and a chain of dialogue develops into a scene.

Just like a conversation.

Maybe I need to enroll D in an “improv” acting class; hey, not a bad idea.

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