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All-Star Sports: Day Two

Written By: Scot Butwell - Jul• 06•13


There is a name for it in “recovery” when you do the same thing over and over and expect different results. I know it well from attending a weekly recovery group. We call it insanity.

I never thought this principle would apply to D’s All-Star Sports class. But it did. Big time. Actually, it related to my repeated failure to make D stay with his class rather than run off.

D was supposed to be learning the fundamentals of soccer. But he was more interested in climbing the play structures along the walls than learning the basics of soccer.

A game cat-and-mouse ensued of D leaving his class and me pursuing him and telling him to stay with his class, and D running off again and both of us repeating the same cycle endlessly.

This fact alluded me each time D ran off from his class, that, maybe, I was reinforcing his running off by giving him attention, even if my attention was to get him to return to his class.

I felt like Sisyphus, assigned by the Greek gods to roll a giant rock to the top of a mountain, only to watch it roll back to the bottom. That was me for the majority of his three-hour class.

By the end of his class, I hit a new bottom in my awareness of how little I actually know about being a parent. I felt like I knew next to nothing and was incompetent in parenting skills.

The only redeemable thing, as a result of attending a 12-step recovery group, is that I am learning to admit my powerlessness and acknowledge my need for help from a higher power.

And Day Two of D’s All-Star Sports class showed me that I definitely need help in parenting my son.

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