FatherSon Ventures

Building a Relationship through Adventure

Sea Aire Golf Course

Written By: Scot Butwell - May• 28•13

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It’s a Sunday afternoon, and D and I are on a pitch-and-putt golf course (average distance per hole: 80 yards), and I’ve decided to apply Wes Moss’s principles for entrepreneurial success to golfing with D because they fit:

Practice the learned trait of optimism.

Define a vision.

Mentally bypass the multitude of things that can go wrong.

Focus on your own personal, all-important vision.

Our last golf outing was at a glow in the dark miniature golf course with freaky neon creatures on the wall. Sometimes, I guess you have say, “What the heck!” This is how we ended up on the pitch-and-putt course.

Practice the learned trait of optimism: D may be more inclined to play in the sand dune than to hit his ball out of it, but it’s a sunny, gorgeous day for D’s first time being out on a golf course, and glass is perpetually half full.

Define a vision: Hit his ball off the tee together and let him take over the short game. We’re here to have fun and complete the course. Everything else, a bogey, making par, a hole-in-one, is secondary to having fun.

golf sea aireMentally bypass the multitude of things that can go wrong: That huge pile of sand near the first hole? Don’t worry when D sits on top of it. The same goes for when he knocks over a trash can beside the tee on hole two.

Just pick up the trash can and keep moving. Wait. Better yet, let him pick up the trash can. And his tendency to flick patches of dirt? No problem. He is a sensory kid, and that’s fine with me.

Focus on your own personal, all-important vision: My personal, all-important vision is building a father-son relationship. Golfing, and any obstacles we may encounter, are secondary to my main objective.

Underestimate your obstacles.

Keep pushing forward.

Don’t give up.

Don’t let anything stand between you and your vision.

These are more of Moss’s advice to entrepreneurs, and it is also great advice to fathers on how to build a relationship with their son: Push forward, never give up, do not let anything stand between you and your vision, underestimate your obstacles.

Before we started to play, I gave D a short golfing lesson–not that I know very much–on how to hold his club with his fingers interlocked and I was utterly amazed afterwards when I looked at the pictures I’d taken of D.

In bypassing the multitude of things that might go wrong, I had failed to notice the many things that could go right…his interlocked finger grip, bent knees, and focused concentration before he swung and hit his ball.

I stared at the pictures because the images of D were so different than the ones in my head. Rather than the overly sensory kid (he usually is), his stance and concentration could have passed for a future PGA golfer.

Most importantly, however, D and I accomplished our personal, all-important vision: pushing forward in our relationship and not letting anything stand in the way of our all-important vision.

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