FatherSon Ventures

Building a Relationship through Adventure

Sea Aire Golf Course

Written By: Scot Butwell - May• 28•13

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It’s a Sunday afternoon, and D and I are on a pitch-and-putt golf course (average distance per hole: 80 yards), and I’ve decided to apply Wes Moss’s principles for entrepreneurial success to golfing with D because they fit:

Practice the learned trait of optimism.

Define a vision.

Mentally bypass the multitude of things that can go wrong.

Focus on your own personal, all-important vision.

Our last golfing outing was at a glow in the dark miniature golf course with freaky neon creatures on the wall. Sometimes, you have say, “What the heck!” This is how we ended up on both courses.

Practice the learned trait of optimism: Sure, D may be more inclined to play in the sand dune than to hit his ball out of it, but it’s a sunny, gorgeous day for our first time being out on a golf course.

Define a vision: Hit his ball off the tee together and let him take over the short game. We’re here to have fun and complete the course. Everything else, a bogey, making par, a hole-in-one, is secondary to having fun.

golf sea aireMentally bypass the multitude of things that can go wrong: That huge pile of sand near the first hole? Don’t worry when D sits on top of it. The same goes for when knocks over the trash can beside the tee on hole two.

Just pick up the trash can and keep moving. Wait. Better yet, let him pick up the spilled trash. And his tendency to flick patches of dirt? No problem. He is a sensory kid, and that’s fine with me.

Focus on your own personal, all-important vision: My all-important vision is building a father-son relationship. Golfing, and any obstacles we may encounter, are secondary to my main objective.

Underestimate your obstacles.

Keep pushing forward.

Don’t give up.

Don’t let anything stand between you and your vision.

These are more of Moss’s advice to beginning entrepreneurs. They are also great advice to dads on how to build a relationship with their son: Push forward, never give up, do not let anything stand between you and your vision, underestimate your obstacles.

I thought D and I would face many obstacles on the golf course, but we encountered few since I followed the principles of practicing the learned trait of optimism and focusing on my personal, all-important vision.

I gave D a short golfing lesson before we started on how to hold his club (which I thought he would forget), and I was amazed afterwards when looking at the pictures I’d taken of D golfing.

In mentally bypassing the multitude of things that might go wrong, I missed noticing the multitude of things that could go right…his interlocking finger grip on the club, bending his knees and concentrating to hit his ball.

Stick a visor on his head and a short sleeve shirt with a collar, and D could have passed for a mini-version of a pro golfer on the PGA tour. That’s how good his grip and stance looked.

His swing looked pretty good, too.

Most importantly, D and I accomplished our personal, all-important vision: pushing forward in our relationship and not letting anything stand in the way of our all-important vision.

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